原因是那里没电插头！！

原因是小的还没进攻房地产 但小的会尽量回复大大 另外，小的也知道这里有很多投资房地产的达人 若小的有说错，你们也不要太在意我的言论，我只不过是在咖啡店叫杯ＴＥＨ　Ｃ　ＰＥＮＧ车大炮吧了  无可否认，富爸爸这本书真的让很多人都开始投资房地产 所以屋价高也是受这书影响的人＂推动＂的 这也是为什么你开始发现书局有人出版投资房地产的书 而创业的书比较少人写 而写的人通常都不是创业者 就算是，多数也是保险或直销佬，部分原因是希望你成为下线 教你投资房地产，那么你也帮我炒高 教你投资股票，大家一起炒，画面很像兄弟哥弟一起去打拼，很爽． 但谈起生意手法，通常是大企业的老板说，而就算你懂你也没能力或还没到那ＬＥＶＥＬ去采用 所以只能听和看，无非实际采用在你的小生意． 我想你看了富爸爸的书 你也明白２０／８０的定律 这样你应该能接受多数投资房地产的人是亏钱的 创业也是如此，永远是失败者多过成功者，这才能产生＂平衡＂ 若老虎多过山羊就糟糕了，生态就不平衡了． 所以有人说过，就算你把财富平反给每个人 不到十年，２０／８０的定律又出现了 穷人依然是多过富人很多倍． 很多人看书，包括看富爸爸书的理解和细度都不同 小的看书慢因为求细和明白 不懂各位富爸爸的书迷们 你们知道富爸爸的作者是找了差不多１００家屋子才找到一家能产生正现金流的吗？ 你们可能才找十家，还没找到宝，就心急买下来，你们亏钱是活该，ＫＩＹＯＳＡＫＩ赚钱是应该 每次很多人告诉我他选择那行业是因为看到别人的生意好 但，当我问他们，你们知道这家公司耗尽了多少的时间和心血才有今天的成就时 他们会答，我从来都没想过． 我还记得有位从新加坡打电话问我创业问题的打工女士 她看到有人卖榴莲ＰＡＮＣＡＫＥ很好赚 也给了我看那网页 之后我就问她以上那个问题 她去那网页再看一次时 才发现那家公司已经成立３，４十年才有今天的成绩的． 多数人希望看他人表面的风光 而小的喜欢看他人背面所付出的心血 这样更能让我有接受苦难的心理准备 不会因为挫折而轻易放弃． 你必须记得＂人不是完美的，所以他们时常会制造问题．＂ 所以别以为买了家可以产生正现金流的房子就能ＧＯＹＡＮＧ　ＫＡＫＩ 租户和屋子依然是会为你制造问题的 至于到底投资房地产是否划得来 就看你生钱的本事了 我有个例子来打个比如，那么你就能更有画面，而且每当你遇到到底要不要投资或去做时，请你想起这个故事 某个冬天，有个人打算到１公里外的森林去取柴生火 就跑去邻居家借工具 ＂这里有铁锤，小锯子，斧头，电锯，　你自己选＂ 因为这是他第一次取柴 所以不懂要选哪一个最恰当 就随便选了铁锤 走了３０分钟的路 花费了一小的时间和精力，连棵小树都无法砍断 就再用半小时走回去换另一种工具 这次他选了小锯子 到了那，他选了棵大树 使命据，但树依然竖立着 他火了，就再回去． 换了斧头后 他拼命地砍 不错哦，树开始摇晃了 但．．．他没力气了 所有的力气都被之前的劳动给耗掉了 他就再次回去 心想，真他妈的笨！ 我怎么不去选电锯！ 他先来个小休息 深怕到时去到那没力气据树可就傻了 休息后，走到那，他带了副墨镜，摆出神气的模样，对树说＂你玩蛋了！今天就是你的死期！＂ 结果树依然没到．．．．．． 怪了，为什么呢？ 原因是那里没电插头！！  哈，我自己写后都自己笑（这故事小的临时编的 ） 电锯能锯树吗？能，但必须有电源． 斧头能砍树吗？能，但必须有体力． 小锯子能锯木吗？能，但只适合小树． 铁锤能锯木吗？能，除非你是傻瓜，拼命不停地继续犯错  所以每一项赚钱的项目都必须符合市场（有电源吗？），符合个人财商能力（有体力吗？, 符合合理回筹（别妄想十分保障的定期利息能有几倍的赚幅）， 符合你的目标（别幻想只用劳力不用脑力就能达到目标） 所以当你看到别人赚钱时 请想想，你有资格吗？

[学员精彩分享] 优秀的孩子是这样培养的（建议永久保存

教育专家给家长的100条建议！！！（建议永久保存）(转载）  教育篇：  1．每天花半个小时和孩子交流。  2．和孩子在家也要使用文明用语，“早上好，请，谢谢，晚安”等等。  3．让孩子养成爱卫生的好习惯。  4．多听听孩子的声音！——用耐心、用爱心、用开心，心是长着眼睛的！  5．不要为了提醒孩子，而总是揭孩子的伤疤。  6．严肃指出孩子的错误！  7．不要总对孩子一本正经，要多和孩子一起欢笑：因为笑声能让孩子更加热爱生活；       引导孩子积极、轻松愉快的看待事物。  8．给孩子讲故事，要有耐心，故事有一定的教育意义。  9．不要把当年未曾实现的理想强加在孩子身上，想让孩子去实现。  10．关爱孩子但适当时候适当的惩罚也是需要的，不要护孩子的短。  11．教育并不一定只是讲道理，有时适当可以采取一些强硬的措施。  12．结合孩子的表现，每天思考至少一个关于孩子成长的问题。  13．对幼儿进行艺术教育，培养幼儿高雅的审美情趣，注意引导、        丰富幼儿的感性认识，在大自然中加深幼儿的情感体验，是非常有益的。  14．对于幼儿时期的孩子，不要让他们长时间地和自己的父母住在一起，隔代更亲，不利于教育。        也许没有科学道理，但绝对适用。  15．注意培养孩子的善心。古人云：勿以恶小而为之，勿以善小而不为。  16．教会孩子微笑，微笑面对生活的一切，微笑面对人生。  17．对孩子不要乱许愿，承诺的事情想尽一切办法也要兑现。  18．要常换位思考!对孩子的所做、所想等家长应常换位思考，假如我是孩子的话，我将会怎样？  19．给孩子一定的空间和自由，同时给一定的压力和责任！  20．向孩子说明，他本身已经很可爱了，不用再表现自己。  21．从来不说孩子比别的孩子差。  22．绝不用辱骂来惩罚孩子。  23．在孩子干的事情中，不断寻找值得赞许的东西。  24．不要吓孩子。以免造成孩子过分胆小、怕事。  25．不要当众批评和嘲笑孩子，以免造成心理畸形，失去自信心等。  26．不要对孩子过分严厉。以免孩子惧怕、害羞不敢发表自己的观点，养成面善心恶的性格。  27．不要过分夸奖孩子。以免孩子养成“沽名钓誉”的不良习气。  28．不要暗示孩子做不良的事。比如，打架一定要打回来、自己的东西不给别的吃、乘车不购票等。  29．让孩子正确树立心目中的偶像。  成长篇：    1．给孩子一些私人空间。    2．给孩子选择的机会和权利。    3．让孩子自由选择自己的伙伴、朋友。    4．让孩子做想做的事。    5．让孩子做一些力所能及的家务，如洗洗自己的衣服、烧水煮饭等，让他意识到自己是家庭成员中的一分子。    6．为孩子准备一个陈列架，让他在上面展示自己制作的物品。    7．认真地对待孩子提出的正经问题和看法。    8．把孩子当作成人一样，和他平等相处，把孩子当成自己的朋友。    9．及时发现孩子的点滴进步，懂得赏识孩子。  10．记得对孩子说：我爱你，你是我的宝贝！  11．记得经常的亲吻你的孩子，抱抱他（她），摸摸他（她）的头，让他（她）知道你的爱！  12．随时关注他（她）的进步，并也让他（她）自己知道自己的进步！及时发现孩子的点滴进步，懂得赏识孩子。  13．多与孩子孩子沟通，了解孩子，与孩子同行。  14．不要给孩子贴上“笨”的标签。  15．家长要耐心地倾听孩子的烦恼。  16．要学会真诚地赞美孩子，而不是像对宠物一样说句“你真聪明”。  17．让孩子经常有机会和他的同伴在一起。  18．关心孩子的身体健康，更关注孩子的情感需要。  19．先成人再成才，教育的根本目标是培养人，一个健全的人。  20．在生活中创设一些困境，和孩子一起度过。  21．鼓励孩子尽量不依赖成年人。  22．了解孩子有哪些朋友，这很重要。                        生活篇：  1．给孩子一些钱，让孩子学会理财。  2．没有得到孩子的许可，不要看孩子的日记与信件。  3．经常和孩子郊游。  4．睡前给孩子讲讲故事，让孩子笑着入睡！  5．给孩子一个主要供他玩耍的房间或者房间的一部分。  6．如果有条件,每天晚饭过后和孩子到户外散散步。  7．快乐与孩子一起分享！  8．对小家伙开心的笑，并希望他（她）也常笑！  9．帮助孩子与来自不同社会文化阶层的孩子正常交往。  10．鼓励孩子与各种年龄的人自由交往。  11．给孩子留出真正的“玩”的时间和空间。  12．教会孩子骑自行车，游泳,这都是进入社会的一种基本技能。  13．每天早上与孩子相互问候，让他感受到美好的一天的到来。  14．夫妻实在要吵架，请一定要记住：避开孩子  15．每天下班回家看到孩子，首先微笑着问他一遍：孩子，你今天快乐吗？  16．不给他留有太多的物质遗产，给他一个健康的身体，给他一个健康的心理，一个快乐的人生。  17．着重进行孩子的生活能力和行为习惯的培养。  18．只要与创作尘埃有关，不要责备孩子房间里或者桌面上乱  19．父母对自己的双亲要孝敬有加，让孩子觉得家中充满了爱，同时父母也是他们值得学习的榜样  20．父母之际间要互相谦让，相互谅解  21．不要太关心孩子。“自己的事情自己做”，以免孩子养成以我为中心的坏习惯。  22．不要太亲近孩子。让他与年龄相仿的孩子多交往，以免孩子养成性格孤僻的恶习。  23．不要孩子要啥买啥。让他知道“劳动与所得、权得与义务” 的关系。以免孩子羞成好逸恶劳的许多性格。  24．生活中的困难以及一些家庭大事有时可以和孩子商量商量。  25．对孩子的爱要稳定，不要一会儿晴，一会儿阴。                      学习篇：  1．和孩子一起读书，家长可以看看报，一个好的学习伙伴很重要。  2．孩子在家学习，家长切莫搞一些娱乐活动，一个舒适的学习环境很重要。  3．不要逼孩子学自己不喜欢的东西。  4．不要因为孩子的成绩而责骂孩子。  5．不要因为孩子试卷上的低分而认为孩子没有出息。  6．教他（她）足以带来成就感的知识：古诗、数字、故事、家务、玩耍、交朋友···  7．教育孩子读好书、好读书  8．不要对孩子的学习成绩表示太大的关注，那样会造成孩子学习紧张，压力增大。  9．不要把孩子的成绩与其他孩子相比，要分析一下造成这种现象的原因，反思一下有没有自己的责任。  10．孩子的房间要有自己的书桌，书桌上要有几本自己爱看的书籍，如《格林童话》、《伊索寓言》等。                       娱乐篇：  1．和孩子一起看他喜欢的动画片、一起听他爱听的故事等。  2．和孩子一起玩游戏、锻炼身体。  3．控制孩子看电视的时间，每天在半个小时到一个小时之间。  4．多让孩子看一些少儿节目：动画片、益智节目等，少看动作片、连续剧。  5．孩子看电视时，家长们适时地陪他们一起，并且对里面的内容作一些讲解与讨论。  6．春天可以和孩子骑自行车去郊游，夏天和孩子一起去河边游泳，秋天则背着铁锅和孩子去野炊，      冬天一家三口在野地上打雪仗，堆雪人。  7．允许孩子收集各种废弃物。  8．孩子的朋友来做客时要表示欢迎。  9．和孩子下棋，让孩子知道落子无悔，教育他对自己所做事要负责任，      同时下输了要承认，家长有时也要放手让孩子赢一两盘，这对孩子来说很重要。  ------------------------------------------      告诉孩子的话 （一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。           对你好的人，你一定要珍惜、感恩。 （二）没有人是不可代替，没有东西是必须拥有。看透了这一点，将来就算你失去了世间最爱的一切时，           也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。 （三）生命是短暂的，今天或许还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。           因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，预期盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。 （四）爱情只是一种感觉，而这感觉会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请你耐心地等候一下，            让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。 （五）虽然，很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。           你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人，可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，紧记！ （六）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。           你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的烦恼。 （七）我买了二十六年的**，还是一穷二白，连三等奖也没有中，这证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，           世界上并没有免费的午餐。 （八）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，          下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。

小老鹰, 孩子

You never know how close you are / 你永远不会知道你离目标还有多远

You never know how close you are..
Never give up on your dreams！♥
Share if you agree.

你永远不会知道你离目标还有多远，
可是，请不要轻易的放弃，要加油 坚持到底，
只要你相信不放弃，有一天 你会成功的~

一生中不可能错过的十个贵人

12 Things Successful People Do Differently

12 Things Successful People Do Differently

I’ve always been fascinated by people who are consistently successful at what they do; especially those who experience repeated success in many areas of their life throughout their lifetime.  In entertainment, I think of Clint Eastwood and Oprah Winfrey.  In business, I think of Steve Jobs and Warren Buffett.  We all have our own examples of super successful people like these who we admire.  But how do they do it?

Over the years I’ve studied the lives of numerous successful people.  I’ve read their books, watched their interviews, researched them online, etc.  And I’ve learned that most of them were not born into success; they simply did, and continue to do, things that help them realize their full potential.  Here are twelve things they do differently that the rest of us can easily emulate.

1.  They create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Successful people are objective.  They have realistic targets in mind.  They know what they are looking for and why they are fighting for it.  Successful people create and pursue S.M.A.R.T. goals.

S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely.  Let’s briefly review each:

• Specific – A general goal would be, “Get in shape.” But a related specific goal would be, “Join a health club and workout 3 days a week for the next52 weeks.”  A specific goal has a far greater chance of being accomplished because it has defined parameters and constraints.
• Measurable – There must be a logical system for measuring the progress of a goal.  To determine if your goal is measurable, ask yourself questions like:  How much time? How many total?  How will I know when the goal is accomplished? etc.  When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued efforts required to reach your goal.
• Attainable – To be attainable, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work.  In other words, the goal must be realistic.  The big question here is:  How can the goal be accomplished?
• Relevant – Relevance stresses the importance of choosing goals that matter.  For example, an internet entrepreneur’s goal to “Make 75 tuna sandwiches by 2:00PM.” may be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, and Timely, but lacks Relevance to an entrepreneurs overarching objective of building a profitable online business.
• Timely – A goal must be grounded within a time frame, giving the goal a target date.  A commitment to a deadline helps you focus your efforts on the completion of the goal on or before the due date.  This part of the S.M.A.R.T. goal criteria is intended to prevent goals from being overtaken by daily distractions.

When you identify S.M.A.R.T. goals that are truly important to you, you become motivated to figure out ways to attain them.  You develop the necessary attitude, abilities, and skills.  You can achieve almost any goal you set if you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps.  Goals that once seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them.

2.  They take decisive and immediate action.

Sadly, very few people ever live to become the success story they dream about.  And there’s one simple reason why:

They never take action!

The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing.  Growing happens when what you know changes how you live.   So many people live in a complete daze.  Actually, they don’t ‘live.’  They simply ‘get by’ because they never take the necessary action to make things happen – to seek their dreams.

It doesn’t matter if you have a genius IQ and a PhD in Quantum Physics, you can’t change anything or make any sort of real-world progress without taking action.  There’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it.  Knowledge and intelligence are both useless without action.  It’s as simple as that.

Success hinges on the simple act of making a decision to live – to absorb yourself in the process of going after your dreams and goals.  So make that decision.  And take action.  For some practical guidance on taking action I highly recommend Getting Things Done.

3.  They focus on being productive, not being busy.

In his book, The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferris says, “Slow down and remember this:  Most things make no difference.  Being busy is often a form of mental laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.”  This is Ferris’ way of saying “work smarter, not harder,” which happens to be one of the most prevalent modern day personal development clichés.  But like most clichés, there’s a great deal of truth to it, and few people actually adhere to it.

Just take a quick look around.  The busy outnumber the productive by a wide margin.

Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time.  They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.  They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.  Yet, business emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their daily planner is jammed to the brim with obligations.

Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.  But it’s all an illusion.  They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.

The solution:  Slow down.  Breathe.  Review your commitments and goals.  Put first things first.  Do one thing at a time.  Start now.  Take a short break in two hours.  Repeat.

And always remember, results are more important than the time it takes to achieve them.

4.  They make logical, informed decisions.

Sometimes we do things that are permanently foolish simply because we are temporarily upset or excited.

Although emotional ‘gut instincts’ are effective in certain fleeting situations, when it comes to generating long-term, sustained growth in any area of life, emotional decisions often lead a person astray.  Decisions driven by heavy emotion typically contain minimal amounts of conscious thought, and are primarily based on momentary feelings instead of mindful awareness.

The best advice here is simple:  Don’t let your emotions trump your intelligence.  Slow down and think things through before you make any life-changing decisions.

5.  They avoid the trap of trying to make things perfect.

Many of us are perfectionists in our own right.  I know I am at times.  We set high bars for ourselves and put our best foot forward.  We dedicate copious amounts of time and attention to our work to maintain our high personal standards.  Our passion for excellence drives us to run the extra mile, never stopping, never relenting.  And this dedication towards perfection undoubtedly helps us achieve results…  So long as we don’t get carried away.

But what happens when we do get carried away with perfectionism?

We become disgruntled and discouraged when we fail to meet the (impossibly high) standards we set for ourselves, making us reluctant to take on new challenges or even finish tasks we’ve already started.  Our insistence on dotting every ‘I’ and crossing every ‘T’ breeds inefficiency, causing major delays, stress overload and subpar results.

True perfectionists have a hard time starting things and an even harder time finishing them, always.  I have a friend who has wanted to start a graphic design business for several years.  But she hasn’t yet.  Why?  When you sift through her extensive list of excuses it comes down to one simple problem:  She is a perfectionist.  Which means she doesn’t, and never will, think she’s good enough at graphic design to own and operate her own graphic design business.

Remember, the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists.  It rewards people who get things done.  And the only way to get things done is to be imperfect 99% of the time.  Only by wading through years of practice and imperfection can we begin to achieve momentary glimpses of the perfection.  So make a decision.  Take action, learn from the outcome, and repeat this method over and over again in all walks of life.  Also, check out Too Perfect.  It’s an excellent read on conquering perfectionism.

6.  They work outside of their comfort zone.

The number one thing I persistently see holding smart people back is their own reluctance to accept an opportunity simply because they don’t think they’re ready.  In other words, they feel uncomfortable and believe they require additional knowledge, skill, experience, etc. before they can aptly partake in the opportunity.  Sadly, this is the kind of thinking that stifles personal growth and success.

The truth is nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow emotionally and intellectually.  They force us to stretch ourselves and our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.  And when we don’t feel comfortable, we don’t feel ready.

Significant moments of opportunity for personal growth and success will come and go throughout your lifetime.  If you are looking to make positive changes and new breakthroughs in your life, you will need to embrace these moments of opportunity even though you will never feel 100% ready for them.

7.  They keep things simple.

Leonardo da Vinci once said, “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  Here in the 21st century, where information moves at the speed of light and opportunities for innovation seem endless, we have an abundant array of choices when it comes to designing our lives and careers.  But sadly, an abundance of choice often leads to complication, confusion and inaction.

Several business and marketing studies have shown that the more product choices a consumer is faced with, the less products they typically buy.  After all, narrowing down the best product from a pool of three choices is certainly a lot easier than narrowing down the best product from a pool of three hundred choices.  If the purchasing decision is tough to make, most people will just give up.  Likewise, if you complicate your life by inundating yourself with too many choices, your subconscious mind will give up.

The solution is to simplify.  If you’re selling a product line, keep it simple.  And if you’re trying to make a decision about something in your life, don’t waste all your time evaluating every last detail of every possible option.  Choose something that you think will work and give it a shot.  If it doesn’t work out, learn what you can from the experience, choose something else and keep pressing forward.

8.  They focus on making small, continuous improvements.

Henry Ford once said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small pieces.” The same concept configured as a question:  How do you eat an elephant?  Answer: One bite at a time.  This philosophy holds true for achieving your biggest goals.  Making small, positive changes – eating a little healthier, exercising a little, creating some small productive habits, for example – is an amazing way to get excited about life and slowly reach the level of success you aspire to.

And if you start small, you don’t need a lot of motivation to get started either.  The simple act of getting started and doing something will give you the momentum you need, and soon you’ll find yourself in a positive spiral of changes – one building on the other.  When I started doing this in my life, I was so excited I had to start this blog to share it with the world.

Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they arise.  For instance, if you’re trying to lose weight, come up with a list of healthy snacks you can eat when you get the craving for snacks.  It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier.  And that’s the whole point.  As your strength grows, you can take on bigger challenges.

9.  They measure and track their progress.

Successful people are not only working in their job/business, they are also working on it.  They step back and assess their progress regularly.  They track themselves against their goals and clearly know what needs to be done to excel and accelerate.

You can’t control what you don’t properly measure.  If you track the wrong things you’ll be completely blind to potential opportunities as they appear over the horizon.  Imagine if, while running a small business, you made it a point to keep track of how many pencils and paperclips you used.  Would that make any sense?  No!  Because pencils and paperclips are not a measure of what’s important for a business.  Pencils and paperclips have no bearing on income, customer satisfaction, market growth, etc.

The proper approach is to figure out what your number one goal is and then track the things that directly relate to achieving that goal.  I recommend that you take some time right now to identify your number one goal, identify the most important things for you to keep track of, and then begin tracking them immediately.  On a weekly basis, plug the numbers into a spreadsheet and use the data to create weekly or monthly trend graphs so you can visualize your progress.  Then fine-tune your actions to get those trends to grow in your favor.

10.  They maintain a positive outlook as they learn from their mistakes.

Successful people concentrate on the positives – they look for the silver lining in every situation.  They know that it is their positivity that will take them to greatness.  If you want to be successful, you need to have a positive outlook toward life.  Life will test you again and again.  If you give in to internal negativity, you will never be able to achieve the marks you have targeted.

Remember, every mistake you make is progress.  Mistakes teach you important lessons.  Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal.  The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.

So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself!  Don’t let your own negativity sabotage you.  Learn what you can and press forward.

11.  They spend time with the right people.

Successful people associate with people who are likeminded, focused, and supportive.  They socialize with people who create energy when they enter the room versus those who create energy when they leave.  They reach out to connected, influential individuals who are right for their dreams and goals.

You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with.  If you hang with the wrong people, they will negatively affect you.  But if you hang with the right people, you will become far more capable and successful than you ever could have been alone.  Find your tribe and work together to make a difference in all of your lives.  Tribes by Seth Godin is a great read on this topic.

12.  They maintain balance in their life.

If you ask most people to summarize what they want out of life they’ll shout out a list of things like: ‘fall in love,’ ‘make money,’ ‘spend time with family,’ ‘find happiness,’ ‘achieve goals,’ etc.  But sadly, a lot of people don’t balance their life properly to achieve these things.  Typically they’ll achieve one or two of them while completely neglecting the rest.  Let me give you two examples:

• I know an extremely savvy businesswoman who made almost a million dollars online last year. Based on the success of her business, every entrepreneur I know looks up to her.  But guess what?  A few days ago, out of the blue, she told me that she’s depressed.  Why?  “I’m burnt out and lonely.  I just haven’t taken enough time for myself lately, and I feel like something is missing in my life,” she said.  “Wow!” I thought.  “One of the most successful people I know doesn’t feel successful because she isn’t happy with how she has balanced her life.”
• I also know a surfer who surfs all day, every day on the beach in front of our condo complex in San Diego.  He’s one of the most lighthearted, optimistic guys I’ve ever met – usually smiling from ear to ear.  But he sleeps in a rusty van he co-owns with another surfer, and they both frequently panhandle tourists for money.  He has admitted to me that the stress of making enough money to eat often keeps him up at night.  So while I can’t deny that this man seems happy most of the time, I wouldn’t classify his life as a success story.

These are just two simple examples of imbalanced lifestyles that are holding people back from their full potential.  When you let your work life (or social life, family life, etc.) consume you, and all your energy is focused in that area, it’s extremely easy to lose your balance.  While drive and focus are important, if you’re going to get things done right, and be truly successful, you need to balance the various dimensions of your life.  Completely neglecting one dimension for another only leads to long-term frustration and stress.  For some practical guidance on balancing your life, I recommend Zen and the Art of Happiness.

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